How to Deal With The New Normal.

This is a crisis which is not exciting, but scary.

We are a couple of months into this Lockdown and it is starting to wear many of us down.

It can be boredom, it can be tiredness, impatience and exhaustion.
We want it to be over so we can start to have more freedom which is safe for ourselves and others.

This all makes sense and it is why many people have difficulty sticking to habit changes, or long term commitments, projects and challenges.

Can you remember that feeling you get when you start something new? Excited! Fresh! It’s completely different when it’s boring, tiresome, bland, and burdensome.

What would it be like to face this difficulty and change our mindset?

What would it change for us if we didn’t have to get tired of the long term challenges or feel them as boring activities?
What mindset would it shift if we could develop the gift of patience?

Here are a few possible benefits.

• We can endure these long term challenges for an extended period of time.
• We can shift habits into long term, instead of dropping new habits after a couple of weeks.
• We will have more patience for people that usually get on our nerves.
• We will feel more capable of dealing with these things that aggravates us over the long term.
• We will have a greater capacity for endurance and patience overall.

These seem like great benefits to start working towards.

The good news is that the resilience and patience that we are developing through this lockdown and dark time, is the perfect practice ground. This is the time to practice patience when we feel like not facing this difficulty.

How do we do that?

Look at scenarios that test our patience, then how to work with them in this situation.

If we sit down and think about it, there is nothing within the situations that we face that makes them really difficult or annoying, we create the difficulty.

For example, we knew in the past that they did not have what we have now. Imagine you had to sit in a room with no tv, no podcasts, no internet, nothing to read, just nothing for 2 weeks.
( Not everyone) but most would find this boring, but why?
There is nothing wrong with an empty room. It’s not worse than any other situation – except when we make it worse by making the decision that it is not fun, exciting or interesting.

That is our decision, we make it boring, or difficult.

The good news is that if we created the experience, then we can change it. We have the ability not to be bored, frustrated or annoyed.

The shift comes from letting go of thoughts about the situation which are creating the difficult experience.

“But it really is boring/frustrating! It’s not just my thoughts about it!”

No, it’s not, it’s just life, it’s the world that we live in. We create the story of good or bad, we have a choice.
Let go of the bad.
If we let go of the beliefs and thoughts about the situation… it’s not good or bad.
It’s just life.
I have spoken on two podcasts this year, which I speak about the importance of reflecting, it’s glorious to be alive, even though the world is in pandemic there is still many beautiful places to see differently.
Being connected like we are now, to so many people in many ways; that is something to be grateful for.

It’s up to us. We can practice with these thoughts and experiences.

Practice patience in this crisis.

Let’s talk about using patience in this current crisis.

You might be feeling bored, restless, unhappy, exhausted by this situation… that’s great because it’s the opportunity for you to practice.

Look at the situation that is around you, then ask yourself, “Why is this situation frustrating?” “What don’t I like about it?”

See what thoughts you come up with, “I just want this to be over, I just want want to hug my parents, I just want to go to the cinema, I don’t like having to stay home.”

Have you noticed that all of these thoughts are about wanting something or not wanting? What you like or don’t like? This is about not getting our own way.

But if you just sit and look around, can you see the positive in this moment? See the amount of human connections that is going on, it’s the wonderful to hear about.

When you feel that frustration coming on, it’s natural, just experience that and do it without judging.
Then just feel that frustration, experience the moment and then see the positive.

When we practice patience we can increase our capacity.
Or we can continue to practice, frustration and not get what we want.

What will you practice during Lockdown?

Leadership Lessons From Cyrus the Great.

I am researching for a project at the moment and as may know from my social media posts, I am publishing a short piece of detail from the ‘Elite’ of history.
The first was ‘Cyrus the Great’ and I have recently read the book shown in the picture below and it has taught me some lessons from the study of his life.
So, I came across a blog post recently that puts it across to you.

https://medium.com/@ameet/5-leadership-lessons-from-cyrus-the-great-1064c711a7dd

Inspiration At This Time.

Just a little piece of inspiration at this time.

Before in April 1954.
The belief was, the universal belief.
It had been tried again and again by people that failed.
The belief was that man was not physically capable.
Of breaking the four minute barrier.
That he could not run a mile in less than four minutes.
That was the planets belief.
It had never been done.
But guess what, here is what happened.
A Roger Bannister came along and he broke the four minute barrier.
What is significant about that?
Up to what i know, a thousands of people have done it, including high school kids.
What changed those thousands of people?
What happened was, when they got in the track, they knew it had been done.
Because they knew it had been done.
There was a new belief about this barrier.
About this goal that was unreachable.
These people in their heart, knowing someone had done it, it was possible.
They could do it.
So you know, if someone has done this goal.
You can do it.
You can make this dream a reality.
As you look at where you want to go.
Embrace, that it is possible.
PC: PInterest

7 Essential Tips to Make 2020 Your Best Year Ever.

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.

As I reflected on this past year, I realised that 2019 has been perhaps my best year ever. It’s funny, because that’s what I thought about 2018, but my years seem to be getting better and better.

And so I reflected on what made these past two years, so great, and how I could leverage these successes for even further improvement. I’d like to share some things I’ve learned about the past two years and how you might be able to use them to make this next year your best yet.

1. One goal.

This will sound mad to many of you who have so many goals you’d like to accomplish. And trust me, I know how that feels. I started out 2019 with a whole bunch of goals, but I came to realise that I had to concentrate on one goal at a time. If you start yourself off with so many you will spread your energy and focus across them thinly.
But if you have one goal, you’ll be able to focus your energy and attention completely on that one goal and that’s an ingredient to succeeding.
You might have a number of goals to achieve in your lifetime. If so, choose just one to accomplish this year, and focus on that.
You might have shorter-term sub-goals to achieve in a month or two, but those should lead to your one goal for 2020.
Put your goal on your wall, on your computer desktop. Make it your mantra. Keep it your focus for 2020, and you’ll not only achieve it, but you’ll feel great for doing so.

2. Create a new habit.

In 2001, when my goal was to recover and become stronger, I built up the daily habit of training back in the gym. That habit led to my goal. When my goal was to raise money for H4H in 2017 (H4H Everest Trek), I develop the daily habit of asking for sponsorship. Goals are achieved by habits. What habit can you develop this month to help achieve your one goal for this year?

Once you’ve identified that goal, you’ll need to commit yourself, hold yourself accountable to a group of people, and focus completely on that habit for a month.

The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. – Chinese Proverb

3. Take action now.

It’s all good and well to set goals or resolutions, but the best plans are worthless if you don’t act on them. Action is everything. Take action today to make your goal come true. Tomorrow, take another action. In fact, take one action toward your one goal every day, first thing in the day, and make it the most important thing you do every day. If you do that, there’s almost no way that you won’t achieve that goal.

The actions can be small things: making a list, making a call, doing some research.
But take action.

4. Simplify.

If you take the time to simplify your life, in some way, this month, your year will be much better. When we have too much going on in our lives, it overwhelms us. It spreads us thin. It makes us ineffective. Simplifying things helps keep us calm, and makes us more powerful. Take some time to identify the 4-5 things that are most important in your life, then simplify your commitments (and goals and to-do list) so that they fall in line with those 4-5 priorities.

5. Focus on happiness.

If you make your happiness become your focus, you’ll be happier. It’s really that simple (or at least, it has been for me). What makes you happy? That should be the focus of your life. This year, make happiness be your priority. Then do the things necessary to make it a reality.

6. Schedule time for you, and your loved ones.

For me, that’s my wife and family, plus exercise, and reading and writing. Actually, that sentence describes my entire short list: spend time with family, read, write, and lift weights.

Spending time with yourself, doing something you love to do, will give you time for reflection. It will make you happier, and give you time to decompress. Don’t have time? Make time.

Spending time with loved ones, connecting with them, is in my opinion absolutely essential to happiness. Make it a priority.

7. Learn to focus.

This goes back to what was said above about one goal and simplifying, but it’s important not only on those macro levels, but on a day-to-day basis as well. It’s easy to get caught up in things that come our way, in the daily crises that derail our plans, in distractions and email and phone calls and Social Media. Very easy. If you allow yourself to lose focus, you’ll have a very difficult time accomplishing your goals.

When you’re done, take a break and reward yourself. Then focus on the next task.

“We are all of us living in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.“ – Oscar Wilde

8 Ways to Make The Most of Your Unproductive Days.

Ever had one of those days where you feel like just doing absolutely nothing.

I had one of those days last Sunday, I wanted to publish a post here on ‘Becoming a Champion’ and I did a little work but not much happened.

We all have our days when we feel lazy and unproductive… sometimes we did not sleep well… some days we feel unmotivated and sometimes we get distracted by a brand new game (mine on Sunday was Assassins Creed)

So what do you do? Here are 8 ways that are my favourite unproductivity-day strategies.

1. Find something fun to do.

If you’re feeling unmotivated, it may just be those things that you are on your to do list. You need to find something exciting to do.
This can be a challenge for some, so just stop and think… what would be fun to do today? What could you do different which was not normal routine? What are you passionate about? What would be new to you? Think of those ideas, then write them down. Then choose something fun and exciting from the list, even if it’s nothing urgent. It’s better than doing nothing.

Getting excited about something is one of the best ways to get out if that unmotivated mindset. Find what your passion is, then pursue it.

2. Eliminate Distractions.

What is it that is distracting you today? It could be a blog online like (Becoming a Champion?) a television show, or a computer game (Assassins Creed.)
Whatever it is, block yourself from that distraction, you can get a lot more done. It’s hard I know.
A good method is to get a friend or coworker to stop you from using this distraction. Another good method is to disconnect from the internet.
I know that, I get a lot more done when I do that.

3. Put the worst things at the top of the list.

It could be something that you have been delaying for a while, I would put that on the top of my to do list and put a range of other things below.

4. Just relax.

Even if you don’t get anything done today, it is not the end of the world. Sometimes when your brain has been doing lots of work, it will need a rest. Take that rest day and let yourself recover. If you can take the day off, do it! Get back to work tomorrow. You might find yourself recharged.

5. Take a walk.

Sometimes you just need to get moving… and go outside if you can. Just 10 minutes of being in the outdoors can help you relax and get prepared for some work.

6. Have a shower.

Some people work at home, and even on those days that I am writing in the morning, it is very tempting just to get up and stay in those pyjamas. If you don’t feel clean, you might not feel productive. Go take a shower. You’ll feel much better and ready for work.
It’s amazing how much difference a shower and a shave can make.

7. Take a nap.

The ultimate unproductively tool. Sometimes if I take a nap, I wake up refreshed and ready to go.

8. Music.

Turn up the music player.
I enjoy listening to dance music, nothing gets you going better than an upbeat tune.