7 Essential Tips to Make 2020 Your Best Year Ever.

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.

As I reflected on this past year, I realised that 2019 has been perhaps my best year ever. It’s funny, because that’s what I thought about 2018, but my years seem to be getting better and better.

And so I reflected on what made these past two years, so great, and how I could leverage these successes for even further improvement. I’d like to share some things I’ve learned about the past two years and how you might be able to use them to make this next year your best yet.

1. One goal.

This will sound mad to many of you who have so many goals you’d like to accomplish. And trust me, I know how that feels. I started out 2019 with a whole bunch of goals, but I came to realise that I had to concentrate on one goal at a time. If you start yourself off with so many you will spread your energy and focus across them thinly.
But if you have one goal, you’ll be able to focus your energy and attention completely on that one goal and that’s an ingredient to succeeding.
You might have a number of goals to achieve in your lifetime. If so, choose just one to accomplish this year, and focus on that.
You might have shorter-term sub-goals to achieve in a month or two, but those should lead to your one goal for 2020.
Put your goal on your wall, on your computer desktop. Make it your mantra. Keep it your focus for 2020, and you’ll not only achieve it, but you’ll feel great for doing so.

2. Create a new habit.

In 2001, when my goal was to recover and become stronger, I built up the daily habit of training back in the gym. That habit led to my goal. When my goal was to raise money for H4H in 2017 (H4H Everest Trek), I develop the daily habit of asking for sponsorship. Goals are achieved by habits. What habit can you develop this month to help achieve your one goal for this year?

Once you’ve identified that goal, you’ll need to commit yourself, hold yourself accountable to a group of people, and focus completely on that habit for a month.

The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. – Chinese Proverb

3. Take action now.

It’s all good and well to set goals or resolutions, but the best plans are worthless if you don’t act on them. Action is everything. Take action today to make your goal come true. Tomorrow, take another action. In fact, take one action toward your one goal every day, first thing in the day, and make it the most important thing you do every day. If you do that, there’s almost no way that you won’t achieve that goal.

The actions can be small things: making a list, making a call, doing some research.
But take action.

4. Simplify.

If you take the time to simplify your life, in some way, this month, your year will be much better. When we have too much going on in our lives, it overwhelms us. It spreads us thin. It makes us ineffective. Simplifying things helps keep us calm, and makes us more powerful. Take some time to identify the 4-5 things that are most important in your life, then simplify your commitments (and goals and to-do list) so that they fall in line with those 4-5 priorities.

5. Focus on happiness.

If you make your happiness become your focus, you’ll be happier. It’s really that simple (or at least, it has been for me). What makes you happy? That should be the focus of your life. This year, make happiness be your priority. Then do the things necessary to make it a reality.

6. Schedule time for you, and your loved ones.

For me, that’s my wife and family, plus exercise, and reading and writing. Actually, that sentence describes my entire short list: spend time with family, read, write, and lift weights.

Spending time with yourself, doing something you love to do, will give you time for reflection. It will make you happier, and give you time to decompress. Don’t have time? Make time.

Spending time with loved ones, connecting with them, is in my opinion absolutely essential to happiness. Make it a priority.

7. Learn to focus.

This goes back to what was said above about one goal and simplifying, but it’s important not only on those macro levels, but on a day-to-day basis as well. It’s easy to get caught up in things that come our way, in the daily crises that derail our plans, in distractions and email and phone calls and Social Media. Very easy. If you allow yourself to lose focus, you’ll have a very difficult time accomplishing your goals.

When you’re done, take a break and reward yourself. Then focus on the next task.

“We are all of us living in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.“ – Oscar Wilde

8 Ways to Make The Most of Your Unproductive Days.

Ever had one of those days where you feel like just doing absolutely nothing.

I had one of those days last Sunday, I wanted to publish a post here on ‘Becoming a Champion’ and I did a little work but not much happened.

We all have our days when we feel lazy and unproductive… sometimes we did not sleep well… some days we feel unmotivated and sometimes we get distracted by a brand new game (mine on Sunday was Assassins Creed)

So what do you do? Here are 8 ways that are my favourite unproductivity-day strategies.

1. Find something fun to do.

If you’re feeling unmotivated, it may just be those things that you are on your to do list. You need to find something exciting to do.
This can be a challenge for some, so just stop and think… what would be fun to do today? What could you do different which was not normal routine? What are you passionate about? What would be new to you? Think of those ideas, then write them down. Then choose something fun and exciting from the list, even if it’s nothing urgent. It’s better than doing nothing.

Getting excited about something is one of the best ways to get out if that unmotivated mindset. Find what your passion is, then pursue it.

2. Eliminate Distractions.

What is it that is distracting you today? It could be a blog online like (Becoming a Champion?) a television show, or a computer game (Assassins Creed.)
Whatever it is, block yourself from that distraction, you can get a lot more done. It’s hard I know.
A good method is to get a friend or coworker to stop you from using this distraction. Another good method is to disconnect from the internet.
I know that, I get a lot more done when I do that.

3. Put the worst things at the top of the list.

It could be something that you have been delaying for a while, I would put that on the top of my to do list and put a range of other things below.

4. Just relax.

Even if you don’t get anything done today, it is not the end of the world. Sometimes when your brain has been doing lots of work, it will need a rest. Take that rest day and let yourself recover. If you can take the day off, do it! Get back to work tomorrow. You might find yourself recharged.

5. Take a walk.

Sometimes you just need to get moving… and go outside if you can. Just 10 minutes of being in the outdoors can help you relax and get prepared for some work.

6. Have a shower.

Some people work at home, and even on those days that I am writing in the morning, it is very tempting just to get up and stay in those pyjamas. If you don’t feel clean, you might not feel productive. Go take a shower. You’ll feel much better and ready for work.
It’s amazing how much difference a shower and a shave can make.

7. Take a nap.

The ultimate unproductively tool. Sometimes if I take a nap, I wake up refreshed and ready to go.

8. Music.

Turn up the music player.
I enjoy listening to dance music, nothing gets you going better than an upbeat tune.

The Power of Humility in 33 Quotes.

Humility is a trait that is rare to see these days.

It is challenging to get yourself away from the depths of arrogance and pride.
Being humble does not mean that you have a low self-esteem. Humble people can have great talent, yet they are self-aware of those talents, and keep everything in perspective.

Being humble will make you better at what you do, you’re not afraid to ask for help, praise others, and even accept compliments. If your truly humble, then people will notice and naturally move towards you.

Here is 33 quotes to remind you of the power of humility.

1. “A grateful heart is a beginning of greatness. It is an expression of humility. It is a foundation for the development of such virtues as prayer, faith, courage, contentment, happiness, love, and well-being.” – James E. Faust

2. “’Thank you’ is the best prayer that anyone could say. I say that one a lot. Thank you expresses extreme gratitude, humility, understanding.” – Alice Walker

3. “It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels.” – Saint Augustine

4. “We learned about gratitude and humility – that so many people had a hand in our success, from the teachers who inspired us to the janitors who kept our school clean… and we were taught to value everyone’s contribution and treat everyone with respect.” – Michelle Obama

5. “There is no respect for others without humility in one’s self.” – Henri Frederic Amiel

6. “Pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real.” – Thomas Merton

7. “Humility is the solid foundation of all virtues.” – Confucius

8. “I believe the first test of a truly great man is in his humility.” – John Ruskin

9. “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” – Rick Warren

10. “Only a person who has passed through the gate of humility can ascend to the heights of the spirit.” – Rudolf Steiner

11. “Sports are such a great teacher. I think of everything they’ve taught me: camaraderie, humility, how to resolve differences.” – Kobe Bryant

12. “Great leaders don’t need to act tough. Their confidence and humility serve to underscore their toughness.” – Simon Sinek

13. “If anything is good for pounding humility into you permanently, it’s the restaurant business.” – Anthony Bourdain

14. “Where there is humility, there is more success, and lasting success.” – Patrick Lencioni

15. “We come nearest to the great when we are great in humility.” – Rabindranath Tagore

16. “Let us be absolutely clear about one thing: we must not confuse humility with false modesty or servility.” – Paulo Coelho

17. “Honesty is grounded in humility and indeed in humiliation, and in admitting exactly where we are powerless.” – David Whyte

18. “Early in life I had to choose between honest arrogance and hypocritical humility. I chose the former and have seen no reason to change.” – Frank Lloyd Wright

19. “The proud man can learn humility, but he will be proud of it.” – Mignon McLaughlin

20. “Whenever I’m around some who is modest, I think, ‘Run like hell and all of fire.’ You don’t want modesty, you want humility.” – Maya Angelou

21. “Have the humility to learn from those around you.” – John C. Maxwell

22. “Uncertainty is a sign of humility, and humility is just the ability or the willingness to learn.” – Charlie Sheen

23. “Humility is no substitute for a good personality.” – Fran Lebowitz

24. “Power is dangerous unless you have humility.” – Richard J. Daley

25. “Endless effort, endless humility, endless modesty.” – Rain

26. “Humility is preserved when I give credit where credit is due – to God.” – Mother Angelica

27. “It ain’t the heat, it’s the humility.” – Yogi Berra

28. “Life is a long lesson in humility.” – James M. Barrie

29. “Humility, I have learned, must never be confused with meekness. Humility is being open to the ideas of others.” – Simon Sinek

30. “Humility is not something that comes naturally. But it is a cardinal virtue that should be pursued more than any other.” – Joyce Meyer

31. “Humility is really important because it keeps you fresh and new.” – Steven Tyler

32. “An actor should always let humility outweigh ambition.” – Anna Kendrick

33. “Personally, I rather look forward to a computer program winning the world chess championship. Humanity needs a lesson in humility.” – Richard Dawkins

Reference.
Armando Quintana

Building Self-Discipline.

Everybody has areas in their life that need strengthening.
Everybody has habits either good or bad.
Self-discipline is like a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it gets.
It has been known that people with well developed self-discipline are in fact happier – according to a study conducted by the University of Chicago. (1)

There are certain things you can do every day that will help you build self-discipline.

• Do the priorities on your to do list first. This will give your confidence a boost and the hardest part of the day is done. This will give you momentum to finish your tasks for the rest of the day.
• Exercise each and every day. This could be as simple as getting your 10k steps in. The point is to do it even when you don’t feel like it.
• Study/read something for at least 15 minutes.
• Sleep. Sometimes this is all you need to maintain clear focus and strong determination. If you struggle; a warm bath, read a book or sip your favourite tea.
• Nutritional intake. What you eat plays a huge role in how your mind operates under pressure. A slew of scientific research papers has concluded that a lack of Vitamin B Complex can affect your memory and clear your thinking. (2)
For the sake of your long-term well-being, you should craft a healthy yet versatile diet plan that will ensure a proper intake of ALL essential micro and macronutrients.
• Forgive Yourself. Along your journey of self-discipline, you will fail, you will slip up. That’s why you should be ready for it to happen. So instead of being angry with yourself about it, find out why you failed to accomplish the task, strive to find out what caused the setback. Move forward with greater resolution.
There’s no time to dwell on the negatives. Life is simply too short and too wonderful for that. So, prepare for the hurdles, maintain a stubborn positive mindset, and greet your next challenge with the same dedication and vigour.

Reference.
1. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/07/study-people-with-a-lot-of-self-control-are-happier/277349/
2. https://everydaypower.com/improve-self-discipline/

21 Confidence Boosters.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” – Lao Tzu

On the 10th of November 2019 I performed a speech for ‘Remembrance Sunday’ in the Church of St Margaret’s in the county of Essex.
It was an occasion that brought such joy to me because I got to speak in front of my family and the local people that attended the service. I felt so much more relaxed when I went in front of the lectern, and I knew, what played a huge part is the amount of times that I practiced, which in turn improved my self-confidence.

What if you’re low on confidence? Can you change that? Is self confidence under your control?
In my opinion, it is, self – confidence is in your control and you can do things to increase it. It is not genetic and you don’t have to be reliant on others to increase it for you. If you do believe that you’re not confident, or not good at this… not good at that… e.t.c. Then that can be changed.

You can be someone worthy of respect, and someone who pursues what they want, no matter what the non believers say.

I am going to outline… What you can do. None of them is some magic formula… And this list is not comprehensive, but just a few things that have worked for myself.

You don’t need all of them…. Just pick and choose what appeals to you, maybe give a tester of a couple at first.. If they work, brilliant try more. If they don’t, try others.

1. Groom yourself.
Sounds simple, but just having a shower and shave, or getting your haircut can boost those feelings of self confidence. It works for me, and there have been days where my mood has been turned right around.

2. Dress Smart
It gives the same boost as above, but dressing up smartly can make you feel great about yourself. You’ll feel successful and presentable and able to take on the world. Dressing smart is different for everyone… It does not mean wearing expensive clothes, but could be casual clothes looking smart and presentable.

3. Focus on the image that you want.
What we look like means a lot to us, more often than we realise. We have a mental picture of ourselves and this determines how confident we feel. But, this picture is not set in stone or fixed. You can change it. Use your imagination, and work on your self-image. If it is not a very good one, then change it. Figure out why you see yourself that way.

4. Positive thinking.
One of the things I learned when I was in recovery from my injury in 2001, was to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. When I changed my thoughts, suddenly great things were happening. With this tiny little skill, I was able to make a healthy recovery, pursue a world famous transformation and climb to a Base Camp of a mountain. Try it, if you have not given it a go.

5. Block negative thoughts.
This goes hand in hand with above, but it’s important that I separate this tip. Learn to be aware of your self-talk, as these are the thoughts you have about yourself and what you are doing. When I was training, sometimes my mind would go, “This is too much effort, just want to go and do something else.” Well, as soon as I recognised this self-talk, I learned a trick which I imagined these negative thoughts trying to get into my head, but my mind was like a wall and they bounced off and disappeared. Leaving only the positive ones allowed to get through.

6. Get to know yourself.
Going into battle, the wisest leaders know their enemy well. You can’t defeat the enemy without knowing him/her. When a negative image comes into your mind, and you want to replace it with a positive one, then the enemy is yourself. Start listening to your thoughts… Even write a journal about what you are thinking, and why you having these negative thoughts. Then think about the good things about yourself, the things that you do well, and things you like. Stop thinking about what is stopping you, whether these thoughts are real or just ones that you have allowed to be placed there artificially. Dig deep within yourself and you’ll come out (eventually) with more self-confidence.

7. Act positive.
You can think positively, but you have to put it into action. The action is actually the key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn how to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you can change yourself one step at a time. You are what you do, and so if you can change what you do, you can change what you are.
Act in a positive way instead of telling yourself that you can’t be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You’ll soon start to notice a difference.

8. Be kind.
Being kind to others and being generous with yourself and your time is a great way to improve your self-image. If you start to feel good about yourself, and think that you are a good person, it is great for self-confidence, believe me.

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie

9. Get prepared
It’s hard to be confident in yourself if you don’t think your good at something.
Preparation can help you beat this feeling.
Think about an exam, if you have not revised then it will be hard to have confidence in your abilities to do well. But if you do revise, you’re prepared, you’ll be much more confident. Now think of life as an exam and prepare yourself.

10. Speak slowly.
A person of authority will speak slowly, it shows confidence. A person who feels he is not worth listening to, will speak fast because he doesn’t want others waiting on something not worthy of listening to. Try speaking slowly, it will make you sound more confident. Of course don’t take it to the extreme, but don’t sound so rushed either.

11. Stand tall.
The Army had me in the habit of doing this constantly when on parade. Even now, the memories remind me to stand tall and straight, and it makes me feel better about myself.

12. Increasing competence.
If you want to be a better writer, practice writing. If you want to be a better speaker, practice speaking. Just small bits at a time. For instance with the writing, you could do a diary, a blog or a social media post. The more you write, the better you will be at it. Set yourself a word amount each day, like 500, practice will increase your competence.

13. Set yourself a small goal and achieve it.
People often make the mistake of reaching for the stars, when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, just reach for something that is much more achievable. Set a goal that you can achieve, then achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you will be at it, the better you will feel. Soon you will be setting bigger goals and achieving them.

14. Change a small habit.
It could be giving up smoking, or waking up 10 mins earlier, writing things down or drinking a glass of water as you wake. Something small that you can accomplish, then you will feel great.

15. Focus on solutions and not problems.
In every problem there is an opportunity to learn, so focus on the solution. A great way to increase confidence and career.
“I’m overweight!? How can you solve that? “But I can’t motivate myself!” How can you solve that? “I have no energy!” So what is the solution?

16. Smile.
It just works. Also creates a chain reaction with other people.

17. Volunteer.
This is like being kind, but more specific. Like helping out a charity to do an event which fundraisers help raise money for. It is great fun and you’ll feel absolutely fantastic.

18. Just be grateful.
I am a big believer in being grateful. For people who read this blog, or follow me on social media, they know this well. Being grateful for what you have in life, and what others have given you is very humbling. It can also be very rewarding and improve your self-image.

19. Exercise.
Exercise has been one of the most empowering activities throughout my life, and it makes me feel so much better about myself.
Even just doing 10,000 steps a day is of benefit.

20. Empower yourself with knowledge.
By becoming more knowledgeable you become more confident… and you become more knowledgeable by researching and studying. The internet is a fantastic tool, so is the people around you, books, magazines and educational centres.

21. Just keep moving.
Doing something is better than doing nothing. Of course, doing something could lead to mistakes, but mistakes are how we learn. Without mistakes we would not get any better. So don’t worry about them. Start taking steps to accomplish something.

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sail. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain.

Getting Leaner: 11 Stress-Free Ways.

Habit is habit and not to be flung out of the window by any man, but coaxed downstairs a step at a time. – Mark Twain

Let’s be honest: Losing weight and getting leaner are not the easiest things in the world. Even with all of our best intentions, it won’t reduce if we end up doing nothing.

There are many diet plans out on the market with the aim to help you lose weight, plus various exercise programs you can read up on.

In this post I am going to make life easier for you, in terms of your weight loss struggles. I will give you some pretty simple tips and will try to simplify them even more for you.

Let me be honest again: Even with the tips below, it will not be easy, but at least these tools will help make it a little easier, little simpler and they really do work.

1. Focus on nutrition.

Exercise is vitally important and has multiple benefits, but if you’re focusing on weight loss then the most important factor is what you eat. Don’t ignore exercise, by any means, but if you’re just focusing on exercise and think you can eat whatever you want, you are wrong. You have to focus on your nutrition (what you eat) and use exercise as a way to supplement the calorie burn and get your body to look, how you want it to look. (Not to mention as a key to keeping healthy and feel great.)

2. Eat when you’re hungry, not starving.

When you first feel those hunger pains coming on, that is a notification that it is time to eat. Don’t put it off until you would happily grab anything. When you feel hungry, eat a healthy snack, especially between meals (look at up,nutrition plan) and this is something that will fulfil your hunger until you can have a larger meal.

3. Learn to eat until satisfied.

Pay attention to how you feel when you’re eating. If you just eat mindlessly, you will most probably overeat. We have all felt the pain of feeling stuffed, so don’t allow that to happen and think about how much you’re eating.

A good habit is to take your time when you’re eating, make pauses, so you can think about whether you’re still hungry, also drink lots of water. This style of eating will allow you to stop when you’re satisfied and allow you to eat less… It’s not easy at first but after a week it two, it will make a great difference in how much you eat.
Drink lots of water.

4. Drink lots of water
Drinking water throughout the day will help you eat less. Water takes the place of food in your stomach. You still need to eat, but if your hydrated, you will feel hungry less. Keep a bottle of water with you at all times.

5. Keep healthy options available.

Empty your fridge of all those unhealthy foods, then plan some healthy breakfasts, lunch, dinners and snacks in between. Bring healthy meals to work and wherever you go.
Always have some fruit and nuts and other healthy options by your side. If you do this, and then eat them when you’re hungry, you’ll eat that unhealthy stuff, much less.

6. Food diary.

This may be difficult for some over a couple of days, or for those who start it and stop… but it’s really not that hard once you get used to it. If you use a basic log and one that is accountable, it is even easier. The reason you need to log is that most people underestimate the amount of calories that you are eating. People think that those full sugared drinks, or those little nibbles, won’t make a difference, but they do all add up. Log everything that goes into your mouth, and you will really see how much you’re taking in. The act of logging will make you aware, which allows you to eat less and healthier.

7. Be accountable.

A huge motivator is to allow others to see your food diary. That’s why MyFitnessPal is so good, as it will allow other people to see your food log. Whatever tool that you use, get a partner or a small group of people to monitor each other’s food diaries, you’ll feel very motivated to eat well and exercise

8. Find a training partner (gym.)

This is accountability done right. A good training partner will want to train with you at the same time, and whose company you enjoy. Why it works: You set an appointment time with a training partner, you won’t want to miss it. You will make sure you are there, unlike when you work out by yourself – many people will be tempted to just cancel their workouts, if their tired or too busy. Also, having a workout partner will help push you more, that’s always a great thing. Try aiming for 3-5 sessions per week, give yourself plenty of rest after tough workouts.

9. Enjoy a cheat meal.

If you are severely restricting yourself all the time, you won’t last long. I do recommend that you relax yourself a little and have a cheat meal once or twice a week, also allowing yourself to cheat on special occasions. It is still best to go for the healthier foods, but don’t be too strict.

10. Mistakes happen, move on.

If you make a mistake, or cheat a little more than you should, don’t just give up. That’s the kind of negative thinking why people don’t stay on diets for too long. They go back to eating the wrong foods and
unhealthy habits. Instead, just acknowledge it was a mistake and get back to your healthy eating plan.

11. Be inspired.

Motivation is important. Maybe the most important thing. Accountability (mentioned above) is the best motivator, but inspiration is very close. Find others that are doing what you are doing, read success stories, read magazines, blogs and books, put up a motivational poster… whatever it takes to get inspired.

A Guide to Living Your Life Intentionally.

Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.
—T. S. Eliot

Even now I am making decisions which may seem, clouded or unclear.

So, do you ever get that feeling that you’re just going through life, not knowing where you want to go? Or not knowing how you got to where you are today?

Living with intent is about taking control of your life, it’s about making those decisions through thought rather than just off the cuff. It’s about making the life that we want and not just waiting for what befalls us.

If you’re just drifting through life at the moment, or you feel stuck, or defeated and not sure how you got there… deciding to live with intention could be the single most important thing that you do.

Are you living with intent now?

Ask yourself the following questions and if you say yes to many of them, you might want to consider living with intention.

1. Are you in a job you fell into rather than the one you want?
2. Are you doing things that were given to you rather than what you love to do?
3. Are you spending your time doing busy work rather than what you want to do with your days?
4. Do you wish, you can spend more time with your loved ones?
5. Do you find yourself overweight because you have been eating the food you’ve been eating for years and stuck in a rut of not exercising?
6. Do you find yourself living for payday or in debt, not knowing where your money goes?
7. Do you find yourself wasting energy on things that do not matter, rather than focusing on getting things done that do?
8. Do you go through your days, not thinking about what you want out of life and how to get it?

If you answered “no” to any of these questions, then you’re living with intention and this blog post is most probably not for you. For those who would like to live more intentionally, please read on.

How to Live With Intention.

This is something that takes time and will not happen overnight. Living with intention is a lifestyle, a skill, an art. It’s not something that you do just once, but let’s say it’s a habit that you can form for the rest of your life.

It is quite simple, when you have a thought, think about the choices that you have and make that decision… rather than just going with the flow.

It sounds simple, but it’s amazing how many people actually do this, and it’s also amazing how many people just switch to autopilot, and do what we are used to doing. It is often easier that way, even if our lives are difficult.

It’s not easy to change our lives, to break out of routines and begin to live the lives that we want.

It takes purposeful effort, energy and constant vigilance to think about the choices that we make… all of them.

Here are some tips that have worked for me.

1. Make reflection on your life as part of a regular routine.

I actually used this tip this morning.
Whether you keep a diary, or you make reflection part of your evening, day or weekly routine. Take some time to review your life and get away from the commotion of work to reflect on everything… it’s important to give the things in your life some thought. Regularly.

2. At least once a year, set reviews for your life’s goals.

What do you want to do in life? What is important to you? What do you want your life to be like? And how will you get there? Write it down and put it somewhere you will see often.

3. Review your relationships.

The people that you love are the most important people in your lives, if not the only important things. Do you create enough time with them? Do you show appreciation for them? Is there a way you can improve your relationship? Do you need to forgive or apologise about anything? Are there barriers that can be removed? Communication be improved? Also review your relationships with others, your co-workers.

4. Consider the cost of each purchase.

We do often buy things without thinking about what we are doing. Sure it’s £30 that’s not an issue right? But that £30 could represent several hours of your life…hours that you will never get back. Do you really want to spend your life earning money for trivial purposes? Is that really what you want to do with your life? It is certainly worth some thought.

5. Review how you spend your time.

Until we do a time audit and keep a log on how we spend our time, even if it is just for one or two days. We don’t really know how we spend our time, and if we do an audit on our time it can be very surprising. When we know what we are spending our time on, we can make intentional decisions to change how we spend our time in the future.

6. Assessment of Yourself.

Take some time to think about yourself and what kind of person that you are. What are your values? Do you live your life according to those values? How you treat people. How you treat yourself. Think about this… What do you want people to say about you when you die.

Using Our Time Wisely In 24 Hours.

I just wanted to make a brief post.

Time is arguably our most valuable commodity.

There is diamonds and pearls and other prized possessions but one thing we can’t store… that is time. It can’t be collected or earned and it can’t be bought with hard work or money.

Time is a constant flowing process which will either slip away or we can pack meaning into it, you could say that we lose it or use it.

Even though we all know that we have a limited amount of time, sometimes we do forget that and we will waste those precious hours, just by killing time.

We all have our time management systems yet when I travel to work every in the morning, I am sure like many people I do forget to look at the sunrise and actually realise how beautiful it is. We constantly are planning for our future and yet we do forget the present. We look back at our past wistfully, while the future can be full of hope.

While yet, for many of us we look at our days and say, “there is not enough hours!” And we try to cram everything into those 24 hrs and we stress that there is so much pressure on us to do more, be more, and accomplish more.

But In the end we trade our time doggedly trying to pursue this version of a idealised quality of life.

But remember that time, like all treasures in the world, we can’t take with us when we make our final stop. Some us are willing to embrace happiness within the time that we do have.

For the rest of us, we can improve our relationship with time.

So from now on, I have made 3 hours of time to do the things that I am passionate about.
I will pursue my dreams, I will do new projects and continue to do things which will better my life. For example, like writing my own book, exercise, reading, fundraising, volunteering, spending time with my loved ones and… time for myself.

Even if you only can make 1 hour your day? What are you going to do?

Giving More, Take Less.

“Only the losers win; they’ve got nothing to lose.” -Switchfoot

The paradox of life is, the more you give, the more you get. You find your life by losing it. You win… by losing.

When you first start to live generously, it feels like everything is being untied. It stretches you and is uncomfortable, but it makes you realise that there is more to life than just what you can own and hold on to.

You begin to understand what true abundance is.

Generosity in my life.

When I was growing up as a teenager and in basic training at the Army Foundation college, I went on leave and I travelled into Leeds. As a junior soldier, I was earning a wage, but it was minimal, and I only had £10 to my name for the day. I had 3 friends from out of town coming up to visit me, so when I met them, I wanted to buy them all a coffee and take care of them, but was concerned about blowing all my cash. But I did grit my teeth and bought the coffees.

And now 18 years later and being involved with a charity, I am seeing meals being offered for free, the option of further education and lives being turned around positively, which is a huge joy to watch.

This is a way that I do try to live my life, and of course I am still struggling to hold on, but I am learning that the finer things in life cannot be purchased. That they can only be discovered by giving.

Why don’t we give?

We are scared of giving away what we have, we are lazy, or we believe that life is about us. As a result we often feel empty inside. Never satisfied. Always searching.

“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” – Henry David Thoreau

What is that that unsung song? The more you give your life away, the more you will find it.

What life is really about.

Hard work is important, putting in the hours is important, getting good enough exam results is important, and when you receive that reward then you can start living.

But really, let’s face it, it does feel wrong. It is an ongoing process, it always leaves an empty space waiting to be filled.

But that feeling is there to remind you that there is so much more…

“You have been living in a dream world…” -Morpheus in the Matrix

We must wake ourselves up and live life with intentionality and audacity. We must be generous, and it is not easy because it does not come naturally, but I believe that’s how we were created to live, it’s the only way, where we help each other, and that is where you will find the satisfaction you have been looking for.

Your health, business and psychology all benefit from being generous, but the most important one is that it will give your life meaning.

How to start.

Here are a few small ideas.

• Make a donation to a nonprofit.
• Just listen to someone.
• Be creative with your generosity if on a limited budget.
• Volunteer at the local soup or shelter.
• Visit a hospital or nursing home and listen to people’s stories.
• Fundraising challenge.
• Focus on the giving, not the getting.

So now go for it, get out there and be generous, I dare you. Then and only then will you find these words from Albert Einstein to be true.

“The value of a man resides on what he gives and not in what he is capable of receiving.”

Tell me what you receive from giving? What good have you seen from living generously?