This is a crisis which is not exciting, but scary.
We are a couple of months into this Lockdown and it is starting to wear many of us down.
It can be boredom, it can be tiredness, impatience and exhaustion.
We want it to be over so we can start to have more freedom which is safe for ourselves and others.
This all makes sense and it is why many people have difficulty sticking to habit changes, or long term commitments, projects and challenges.
Can you remember that feeling you get when you start something new? Excited! Fresh! It’s completely different when it’s boring, tiresome, bland, and burdensome.
What would it be like to face this difficulty and change our mindset?
What would it change for us if we didn’t have to get tired of the long term challenges or feel them as boring activities?
What mindset would it shift if we could develop the gift of patience?
Here are a few possible benefits.
• We can endure these long term challenges for an extended period of time.
• We can shift habits into long term, instead of dropping new habits after a couple of weeks.
• We will have more patience for people that usually get on our nerves.
• We will feel more capable of dealing with these things that aggravates us over the long term.
• We will have a greater capacity for endurance and patience overall.
These seem like great benefits to start working towards.
The good news is that the resilience and patience that we are developing through this lockdown and dark time, is the perfect practice ground. This is the time to practice patience when we feel like not facing this difficulty.
How do we do that?
Look at scenarios that test our patience, then how to work with them in this situation.
If we sit down and think about it, there is nothing within the situations that we face that makes them really difficult or annoying, we create the difficulty.
For example, we knew in the past that they did not have what we have now. Imagine you had to sit in a room with no tv, no podcasts, no internet, nothing to read, just nothing for 2 weeks.
( Not everyone) but most would find this boring, but why?
There is nothing wrong with an empty room. It’s not worse than any other situation – except when we make it worse by making the decision that it is not fun, exciting or interesting.
That is our decision, we make it boring, or difficult.
The good news is that if we created the experience, then we can change it. We have the ability not to be bored, frustrated or annoyed.
The shift comes from letting go of thoughts about the situation which are creating the difficult experience.
“But it really is boring/frustrating! It’s not just my thoughts about it!”
No, it’s not, it’s just life, it’s the world that we live in. We create the story of good or bad, we have a choice.
Let go of the bad.
If we let go of the beliefs and thoughts about the situation… it’s not good or bad.
It’s just life.
I have spoken on two podcasts this year, which I speak about the importance of reflecting, it’s glorious to be alive, even though the world is in pandemic there is still many beautiful places to see differently.
Being connected like we are now, to so many people in many ways; that is something to be grateful for.
It’s up to us. We can practice with these thoughts and experiences.
Practice patience in this crisis.
Let’s talk about using patience in this current crisis.
You might be feeling bored, restless, unhappy, exhausted by this situation… that’s great because it’s the opportunity for you to practice.
Look at the situation that is around you, then ask yourself, “Why is this situation frustrating?” “What don’t I like about it?”
See what thoughts you come up with, “I just want this to be over, I just want want to hug my parents, I just want to go to the cinema, I don’t like having to stay home.”
Have you noticed that all of these thoughts are about wanting something or not wanting? What you like or don’t like? This is about not getting our own way.
But if you just sit and look around, can you see the positive in this moment? See the amount of human connections that is going on, it’s the wonderful to hear about.
When you feel that frustration coming on, it’s natural, just experience that and do it without judging.
Then just feel that frustration, experience the moment and then see the positive.
When we practice patience we can increase our capacity.
Or we can continue to practice, frustration and not get what we want.
What will you practice during Lockdown?