There are certain experiences in life that cause scars.
Some are physical, like falling off your bike. Or, some are emotional, like the loss of a loved one.
Sometimes, they can both happen at the same time.
If I shaved my head right now, (I am not going to do that! Lol) your eyes would see a straight scar running from ear to ear over the top of my head. I also have scars below my throat (where I had a tracheotomy) also, on my chest, where the medical equipment was inserted. All were the aftermath of a grievous Assault which left me in a coma, and, I also had some skull removed because of the swelling. The result, rehabilitation and living my life on medication for epilepsy, a fate I would not wish that on anyone.
The doctors were amazing, they managed to replace the missing skull with titanium, but, in reality, the emotional scars far outweighed the physical scars I have.
The scars from that I carry inside, and I do not show it in public view, are still not any less real.
Choose the healing path.
In our lifetimes we will be greeted with emotional and physical scars, formed as a result of this imperfect world. These experiences will cause pain inside, and burdens we may have to carry as we walk through life.
But, there are choices that we can make. We can just stay negative, allowing those scarring experiences to dictate our very existence. Or, we can ignore reminders of our past that cause pain.
Or we can choose the path of healing by acknowledging that, yes we were hurt, while working towards the freedom of life lived in the present.
As my journey unfolded, I then realised that my scars dictated my existence. I had what looked like half a skull, I felt so small, I felt like nothing, I felt worthless, as I was not doing the job I loved.
Then after I was medically discharged, I was put into the civilian world. What had happened to me? I thought about it a lot, but I was still alive, that must mean something! So, instead of a burden , I made it an opportunity. I let go of those feelings of failure, or not living up to my expectations and I used it as an opportunity to grow.
So, like “I should have gone to the gym today,” make it “I could have gone to the gym today.”
Simply changing the word from “should” to “could” will imbue you with a sense of confidence. Instead of showing a sense of guilt, missteps led to a sense of opportunity lost. Resolve to react differently next time an opportunity presented itself to reach your goals.
You can choose to heal.
We all have scars. There are parts of ourselves that wished we look different, memories which we wish we could erase. Yet the scars we carry offer the opportunity for triumph, the spoils which can last a lifetime.
When I look back and see the things that are done with the money I help raise for Help For Heroes, I have triumphed.
I look back to what was taken from me, but I have gained so much more.
Overcoming scars is never easy. It takes hard work, dedication and the willingness to get back up after being knocked down. During my recovery, I made plenty of mistakes, the journey ahead of me, I hope is a long one, with more failures along the way.
But, in reality, victory is within reach. The scars you carry will never go away, But, they can recede.
Adversity is the chance for you to discover yourself, at times it might seem hopeless, but how you handle adversity, will serve you in how the future unfolds. Your life…
STARTS WITH YOU.