Why Pushing Harder Makes You Feel Good.

Last weekend myself and Jessica were able to have a socially distanced BBQ with our family. It was amazing and because I had been keeping up my training in these trying circumstances, I was able to afford myself a little freedom in the foods that I chose, it included ice cream!

I am able to run around 5 miles most days and even though the sunshine is lovely, it does put a stress on the body (so make sure there is lots of water)

I do feel sore and I am not sure it is because it is because the frequency of my cardio training has increased, but I am beginning to enjoy it. Cardio! Yes, I know.

When you pour yourself into something, and are completely present. You are completely focused, and you aren’t running to distractions and discomforts. You have to take on the difficulty, slight struggle, and stress. So you just accept it, do it without complaining and looking for an easy exit.

How can we create that attitude in our daily lives?

You sit down afterward, your muscles are aching, you feel like your guts are going to explode.
When you have finished, you can look back, even at the end of a hard working day, knowing that you gave your best, doing something worthwhile.

How do we create that satisfaction and that feeling accomplishment in our lives?

When you know that resting is also important, that means good sleep and nutrition.
Fully appreciate the well oiled machine that you have.
Knowing that recovery is just as important for growth.
Knowing that you deserve some rest too.

So how do we create that feeling of recovery and relaxation in our everyday lives?

There is joy in training hard, working hard.
But this can be a lesson in our everyday lives.

Let’s create the same feeling of accomplishment on both sides of the coin, every single day.

Feeling Comfortable During the Day.

When I first started doing video training sessions with clients, or even my first virtual podcast.
I had that feeling of was my communication coming across well? Can I see everything that the client needed? How am I presenting myself on camera?
I was confident that I was performing to a high standard but I still had that feeling of being uncomfortable.

But then I was reading something from Mel Robbins and it was the 5 second rule. So, I did just that, I sat back, counted 5 seconds and just got on with it, and very shortly, I felt much more comfortable..

This practice helped a lot, because even though I was still at home, I suddenly felt much better and was moving through the day with much more easily..

It’s quite a simple idea: instead of having an uptight attitude about what you are doing, you can set yourself up to being more relaxed.

You can try it now… count for 5 seconds, take those breaths and sit back with ease. Come to a place where you feel relaxed and open.
It might take some practice, but most of us are holding some kind of stress that is causing tension most of the time.

If we can get to a place where we feel relaxed, not aggravated, then the things that we are doing doing during the day can be more restful, we can also finish feeling more refreshed.

So, if you’re talking to someone on a video call for an hour, it will be more of a vibrant time with that person.

Have you got lots of tasks to do? Don’t worry, just take each one with deliberate attention, while having a calming attitude towards the task.

Do just one thing at a time. Give the task your full attention, and if it’s a conversation make sure your listening to that person(s).
An easy calming attitude as you move through it.

Something else that helps me is that when I go outside just to walk or do my cardio, I like to take in everything around me. I have lots of thoughts at times, but when I am outside and feel the sun on my skin, I just take a deep breath… and then think about all the people that I am trying to help, I know that I care. Feeling nourished by everything around us, even the just the little mundane things… help us feel not so unmotivated about the things that we do.

Feeling grateful to be alive helps also.

How would you feel when you start moving through the day more comfortably?
Give it a try.

How to Deal With The New Normal.

This is a crisis which is not exciting, but scary.

We are a couple of months into this Lockdown and it is starting to wear many of us down.

It can be boredom, it can be tiredness, impatience and exhaustion.
We want it to be over so we can start to have more freedom which is safe for ourselves and others.

This all makes sense and it is why many people have difficulty sticking to habit changes, or long term commitments, projects and challenges.

Can you remember that feeling you get when you start something new? Excited! Fresh! It’s completely different when it’s boring, tiresome, bland, and burdensome.

What would it be like to face this difficulty and change our mindset?

What would it change for us if we didn’t have to get tired of the long term challenges or feel them as boring activities?
What mindset would it shift if we could develop the gift of patience?

Here are a few possible benefits.

• We can endure these long term challenges for an extended period of time.
• We can shift habits into long term, instead of dropping new habits after a couple of weeks.
• We will have more patience for people that usually get on our nerves.
• We will feel more capable of dealing with these things that aggravates us over the long term.
• We will have a greater capacity for endurance and patience overall.

These seem like great benefits to start working towards.

The good news is that the resilience and patience that we are developing through this lockdown and dark time, is the perfect practice ground. This is the time to practice patience when we feel like not facing this difficulty.

How do we do that?

Look at scenarios that test our patience, then how to work with them in this situation.

If we sit down and think about it, there is nothing within the situations that we face that makes them really difficult or annoying, we create the difficulty.

For example, we knew in the past that they did not have what we have now. Imagine you had to sit in a room with no tv, no podcasts, no internet, nothing to read, just nothing for 2 weeks.
( Not everyone) but most would find this boring, but why?
There is nothing wrong with an empty room. It’s not worse than any other situation – except when we make it worse by making the decision that it is not fun, exciting or interesting.

That is our decision, we make it boring, or difficult.

The good news is that if we created the experience, then we can change it. We have the ability not to be bored, frustrated or annoyed.

The shift comes from letting go of thoughts about the situation which are creating the difficult experience.

“But it really is boring/frustrating! It’s not just my thoughts about it!”

No, it’s not, it’s just life, it’s the world that we live in. We create the story of good or bad, we have a choice.
Let go of the bad.
If we let go of the beliefs and thoughts about the situation… it’s not good or bad.
It’s just life.
I have spoken on two podcasts this year, which I speak about the importance of reflecting, it’s glorious to be alive, even though the world is in pandemic there is still many beautiful places to see differently.
Being connected like we are now, to so many people in many ways; that is something to be grateful for.

It’s up to us. We can practice with these thoughts and experiences.

Practice patience in this crisis.

Let’s talk about using patience in this current crisis.

You might be feeling bored, restless, unhappy, exhausted by this situation… that’s great because it’s the opportunity for you to practice.

Look at the situation that is around you, then ask yourself, “Why is this situation frustrating?” “What don’t I like about it?”

See what thoughts you come up with, “I just want this to be over, I just want want to hug my parents, I just want to go to the cinema, I don’t like having to stay home.”

Have you noticed that all of these thoughts are about wanting something or not wanting? What you like or don’t like? This is about not getting our own way.

But if you just sit and look around, can you see the positive in this moment? See the amount of human connections that is going on, it’s the wonderful to hear about.

When you feel that frustration coming on, it’s natural, just experience that and do it without judging.
Then just feel that frustration, experience the moment and then see the positive.

When we practice patience we can increase our capacity.
Or we can continue to practice, frustration and not get what we want.

What will you practice during Lockdown?

Leadership Lessons From Cyrus the Great.

I am researching for a project at the moment and as may know from my social media posts, I am publishing a short piece of detail from the ‘Elite’ of history.
The first was ‘Cyrus the Great’ and I have recently read the book shown in the picture below and it has taught me some lessons from the study of his life.
So, I came across a blog post recently that puts it across to you.


Inspiration At This Time.

Just a little piece of inspiration at this time.

Before in April 1954.
The belief was, the universal belief.
It had been tried again and again by people that failed.
The belief was that man was not physically capable.
Of breaking the four minute barrier.
That he could not run a mile in less than four minutes.
That was the planets belief.
It had never been done.
But guess what, here is what happened.
A Roger Bannister came along and he broke the four minute barrier.
What is significant about that?
Up to what i know, a thousands of people have done it, including high school kids.
What changed those thousands of people?
What happened was, when they got in the track, they knew it had been done.
Because they knew it had been done.
There was a new belief about this barrier.
About this goal that was unreachable.
These people in their heart, knowing someone had done it, it was possible.
They could do it.
So you know, if someone has done this goal.
You can do it.
You can make this dream a reality.
As you look at where you want to go.
Embrace, that it is possible.
PC: PInterest